When good folks can’t get along for various reasons the only way to resolve the conflict is compromise. We lived in Austin Texas for several years and the slogan there was “Keep Austin Weird”. That gave me the liberty to come up with creative solutions for problems and I think other people interpreted it in the same way. For instance when the neighbor hated to see our garbage bin from their window — we designed a fence that covered it which kept everybody happy. Conflicts happen whether we like it or not, they’re a part of life. The way of dealing with conflict is to follow God’s word and respond obediently. Dealing with conflict isn’t always easy, but it can’t be ignored. Problems don’t disappear. Discover what the Bible teaches about conflict and how to deal with it:
“Hatred stirs up conflict, but love covers over all wrongs” (Proverbs 10:12).
“A hot-tempered person stirs up conflict, but the one who is patient calms a quarrel” (Proverbs 15:18).
Because of conflicts relationships don’t have to end. They remind us of our need for God in our lives. We need to see conflict as an opportunity to reveal the work of Christ in our lives. Jesus’ life was filled with conflict yet His purpose was fulfilled in spite of it. We need to follow Him.
“Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light” (Matt 11:28-30).
After you’ve unloaded your burdens, seek to be a peacemaker in resolving conflicts. “Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called sonsof God” (Matt 5:9).
“Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable – if anything is excellent or praiseworthy – think about such things.” ..Philippians 4:8
I have my computer plunked in front of bookshelves. The shelves are filled with cook books. If you have noticed the last several posts have all had something to do with food. What I see definitely influences me! I’m careful about what I watch on TV, (oldies but goodies). Most of today’s programing wouldn’t pass the Christian test. Breaking commandments and seducing us with ideas that are contrary to God’s teaching, is the standard for sitcoms or movies. In this home we watch a lot of old, old, old reruns and even some of those shows show us where the Networks started to go wrong. If something promotes a homosexual life style or aborting an inconveniently timed baby as a normal choice (which it isn’t), or shows that make excuses for all types of debauchery, then it’s wrong to watch and a terrible influence. Please don’t think we are immune to influence. What we see is what we become. Guard your eyes to protect your souls.
Your eye is the lamp of your body. When your vision is clear, your whole body also is full of light. But when it is poor, your body is full of darkness. …Luke 11:34 And he ain’t talking about 20/20 vision!
1) Am I standing for the truth? 2) More importantly, am I fostering unity? 3) Most important of all, am I speaking in love?
I got this from BeeJai, The River Walk, and just had to share it. This is a fantastic check list for thinking before speaking. I’m planning with God’s help to put this into practice, it will make anyone a better person!